When I read Did something wrong with ESP32S3. Now bricked ? · espressif/arduino-esp32 · Discussion #7272 · GitHub it says to hold down the “boot button” while it’s trying to flash – maybe it doesn’t mean the reset button there put the GPIO0 bootloader switch button.
Acocording to the datasheet of the board the GPIO0 “boot” signal is available on the “DEBUG” header.
can you connect that to GND with a wire / jumper cable and retry flashing?
Edit: Yes the schematics also clearly show the button is connected to EN, not BOOT (GPIO0).